~~Love~~

Love is a madness; if thwarted it develops fast".

A Story To Live By

by Ann Wells, Los Angeles Times

My brother-in-law opened the bottom drawer of my sister's bureau and lifted out a tissue-wrapped package. "This," he said, "is not a slip. This is lingerie." He discarded the tissue and handed me the slip. It was exquisite; silk, handmade and trimmed with a cobweb of lace. The price tag with an astronomical figure on it was still attached. "Jan bought this the first time we went to New York, at least 8 or 9 years ago. She never wore it. She was saving it for a special occasion. Well, I guess this is the occasion." He took the slip from me and put it on the bed with the other clothes we were taking to the mortician. His  hands lingered on the soft material for a moment, then he slammed the drawer shut and turned to me. "Don't ever save anything for a special occasion. Every day you're alive is a special occasion."

I remembered those words through the funeral and the days that followed when I helped him and my niece attend to all the sad chores that follow an unexpected death. I thought about them on the plane returning to California from the Midwestern town where my sister's family lives. I thought about all the things that she hadn't seen or heard or done. I thought about the things that she had done without realizing that they were special. I'm still thinking about his words, and they've changed my life.

I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting on the deck and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden.

I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time in committee meetings. Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experience to savor, not endure. I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.


I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special event-such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, the first camellia blossom.

I wear my good blazer to the market if I feel like it. My theory is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries without wincing.


I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties; clerks in hardware stores and tellers in banks have noses that function as well as my party-going friends'.

"Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary. If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now. I'm not sure what my sister would have done had she known that she wouldn't be here for the tomorrow we all take for granted.


It's those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew that my hours were limited. Angry because I put off seeing good friends whom I was going to get in touch with-someday. Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write-one of these days.

Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and daughter often enough how much I truly love them.

I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that it is special. Every day, every minute, every breath truly is...a gift from God.

by Ann Wells in the Los Angeles Times

25 years ago……How it changed everything

25 years ago……
.. Times surely have changed

A program was … a television show
An application was .. for employment
Windows were….. something u hated to clean
A cusor … used profanity
A keyboard was …a piano
Memory was….. something u lost with age
A CD was… a bank account
If u unzipped in public u went to jail
Compress was something u did to garbage
A hard drive was a long trip on the road
Log on was adding wood to fire
A mouse pad was where a mouse lived
Cut.. u did with scissors
paste.. u did with glue
A web was a spiders home
And a virus was the flu!!!

2 opposite Views.. Nice one!!

Here is how two people looking at the same thing can see it VERY differently.

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet..
He held up a sign which said: ‘I am blind please help.’ There were only a few coins in the hat.

A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat.


He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words.


He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.

Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.


That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were.


The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, ‘were you the one who changed my sign this morning?


What did you write?’



The man said, ‘I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way.



What he had written was: ‘Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it.’


Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?


Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind.

The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind.



Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?



Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Think differently and positively.


Live life with no excuses and love with no regrets.



When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile.


Face your past without regret.
Handle your present with confidence.
Prepare for the future without fear.
Keep the faith and drop the fear.


The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling…



And even more beautiful is, knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!

True Nice Equations – lovely, very nice

Equation 1




Human = eat + sleep + work + enjoy

Donkey = eat + sleep



Therefore:

Human = Donkey + Work + enjoy



Therefore:

Human-enjoy = Donkey + Work



In other words,

A Human that doesn’t know how to enjoy = Donkey that works.



++++++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ ++ ++

Equation 2



Man = eat + sleep + earn money

Donkey = eat + sleep



Therefore:

Man = Donkey + earn money



Therefore:

Man-earn money = Donkey



In other words

Man who doesn’t earn money = Donkey



++++++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +

Equation 3



Woman= eat + sleep + spend

Donkey = eat + sleep



Therefore:

Woman = Donkey + spend

Woman – spend = Donkey



In other words,

Woman who doesn’t spend = Donkey



++++++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +



To Conclude:

From Equation 2 and Equation 3



Man who doesn’t earn money = Woman who doesn’t spend



So Man earns money not to let woman become a donkey!

And a woman spends not to let the man become a donkey!



So, We have:

Man + Woman = Donkey + earn money + Donkey + Spend money



Therefore from postulates 1 and 2, we can conclude



Man + Woman = 2 Donkeys that live happily together!

A Nice Story-Father and Son

One old man was sitting with his 25 years old son in the train.

Train is about to leave the station.

All passengers are settling down their seat.

As train started young man was filled with lot of joy and

curiosity.

He was sitting on the window side.

He went out one hand and feeling the passing air. He

shouted, "Papa see all trees are going behind".

Old man smile and admired son feelings.

Beside the young man one couple was sitting and listing all

the conversion between father and son.

They were little awkward with the attitude of 25

years old man behaving like a small child.

Suddenly young man again shouted, "Papa see the pond

and animals. Clouds are moving with train".

Couple was watching the young man in embarrassingly.

Now its start raining and some of water drops touches the

young man's hand.

He filled with joy and he closed the eyes.

He shouted again," Papa it's raining, water is

touching me, see papa".

Couple couldn't help themselves and ask the old man.

"Why don't you visit the Doctor and get treatment for your son."

Old man said,

" Yes, We are coming from the hospital as Today

only my son got his eye sight for first time in his life".

Moral: "Don't draw conclusions until you know all the facts".

Let One......

Let no one who loves be called altogether unhappy; even love unreturned has its rainbow." Eaton Stannard Barret

A Small Sweet Story…

A Small Story…

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her.

The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully.



But, the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him, the way he had hidden his best marble.

:: Moral of the Story ::

If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent…

This is applicable for any relationship like love, employer-employee relationship etc.,

Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully.

Team Work

Team Work –

Three contractors are bidding to fix a broken fence at the White House in D.C. One from Bangladesh, another from India and the third, from China.
They go with a White House official to examine the fence.
The Bangladesh contractor takes out a tape measure and does some measuring, then works some figures with a pencil. "Well", he says, "I figure the job will run about $900. <$400 for materials, $400 for my team and $100 profit for me>".
The Chinese contractor also does some measuring and figuring, then says, "I can do this job for $700. <$300 for materials, $300 for my team and $100 profit for me>".
The Indian contractor doesn't measure or figure, but leans over to the White House official and whispers, "$2,700."
The official, incredulous, says, "You didn't even measure like the other guys! How did you come up with such a high figure
The Indian contractor whispers back, "$1000 for me, $1000 for you, and we hire the guy from China to fix the fence."
"Done!" replies the government official.

Pure love .........

"Pure love and suspicion cannot dwell together: at the door where the latter enters, the former makes its exit".

How to Be Calm in a Stressful Situation

originated by:Nick Taylor, Alan J, Tom Viren, Cem

The clock is ticking. Everyone's counting on you. Which wire should you cut?

While most of us never have to deal with the life-or-death dilemmas of a bomb squad, everyday situations such as job interviews, public speaking, and family emergencies, can be every bit as stressful if we are not accustomed to dealing with them. Learning how to remain calm in times of stress will not only make things go more smoothly immediately, it can also, over time, help you lead a healthier, happier life. Here's how to keep your cool when the pressure mounts.

Steps


1.


Identify the cause of your stress. Is your heart pounding because that idiot just cut you off on the freeway, or is it because of that presentation you have to give to your boss this afternoon? Think for a moment and try to figure out what’s really bothering you.


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Choose your response. Even if you’re powerless to change the source of your stress, you have the power to choose how you’ll respond to it. The appropriate response to stress should depend on what’s causing it: you can either shake off your stress (ignore it and let it go immediately) or face it head-on. In order to choose your response, ask yourself some questions.


o Does it matter? Yeah, it’s all small stuff, but some stuff is smaller than others. Consider how long the source of stress will affect you. That idiot driver will be gone in a moment if you just let him keep speeding down the road, but the death of a loved one may affect you for years.


o How much control do you have over the situation? You can’t control the rain that’s ruining your wedding, but you can control how well you do on your algebra exam tomorrow.


o Is the source of stress in the past, present, or future? You can’t change the past, but you can respond to the present and prepare for the future. Let your past troubles fade.


o Be mindful of and focus on the important things in your life. Your life is precious, so let not the extraneous things interfere with more important things in your life.


3. 3


Shake it all off. If a situation is beyond your control, or if it just isn’t that important, stop worrying about it. Easier said than done? Just do it.


o Inhale deeply through your nose. In your mind, count to five seconds, and then exhale slowly through your mouth, for another five seconds. Repeat this breathing pattern until you feel comfortable with it.


o Think about something else. Get your mind off the stress by thinking about something that makes you happy, such as your kids or spouse (provided they’re not the cause of the current stress), or by concentrating about the things you have planned for the day.


o Visualize relaxing things, such as a deserted island or a country road. Close your eyes and try to picture even minor details about the imaginary place, and you can put yourself in that situation instead of the one you’re in.


o Get away from the cause of the stress. If you can physically escape the stress trigger, do so. Leave the room or pull off the road for a moment to put things in perspective.


o Get some exercise. Whether you go for a run, do calisthenics, do yoga, or lift weights, 10-20 minutes of physical exercise every day can relax you even when "nothing can".


o See also How to Get Rid of Anger and How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.


4. 4


Face your stress source head-on when you're ready. Getting stressed is not going to resolve the situation. Sitting around worrying is a good way to procrastinate, but procrastinating will only prolong or intensify the stress. Facing your stress head-on is really just a way to shake off a bad situation that you cannot or should not ignore. If you can change the outcome of a situation that matters to you, the quickest way to overcome that fear or to empower yourself is to take action as quickly as possible. Once you’ve resolved the underlying problem, you can shake off the stress because it no longer matters. The steps below will help you. If you feel paralyzed, use the steps above to relax and temporarily distance yourself from the situation just long enough to be able to see it clearly.


5. 5


Make a plan. Sometimes you can resolve a stressful situation right away with one action, but often you’ll need several steps, perhaps over a long period. Write out a plan with attainable goals and a time line for reaching those goals. Additionally, many stressful situations are avoidable. If you prepare ahead of time for important events and make contingency plans, you may not have to cope with as much stress later. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. See How to Be Proactive.


6. 6


Take one step at a time. A complex problem can be overwhelming, even when you’ve got your plan mapped out, but remember: the journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Just focus on one small goal at a time. See also How to Sustain Motivation when You're Struggling.


7. 7


Be realistic. If you continue to experience stress because no matter how hard you try you can’t take the steps quickly enough, you probably haven’t set realistic goals. In a culture that values a can-do attitude, it can be hard to accept that sometimes you can’t do something, at least not within a given period of time. If that’s the case, revise your time line or lower your expectations. If you can’t do that, the situation qualifies as one which you can’t control. Learn from your experience, but let it go. And, if you find yourself constantly failing to meet someone else's unrealistic standards, read How to Stop Being a People Pleaser and How to Overcome Martyr Syndrome.


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Tips


Stress about future events is mostly caused by fear, and stress over things in the present is usually caused by a feeling of powerlessness.


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Focus on someone else who is in the same situation as you and try to tune in to that person’s calm. Remember that if he or she isn’t nervous, you probably don't have to be.


Warnings


Inappropriate reactions to stress or an inability to cope with stress can shave years off of your life. It's true that not everything is possible, but it's impossible for anything to change if it needs your attention and you just sit there and slack off. Hard work is an achievement in itself.


Getting in the habit of hitting things while angry might make you a violent or aggressive person. It's better to defuse your anger than to try to take it out on other people or things. Never hit a person or other living thing, and make sure that any inanimate object you hit won’t hurt you.


Don’t self-medicate. Alcohol and drugs may provide a temporary escape, but your problems will be waiting for you when you get back to reality. Besides, do you want an addiction problem in your life, too? You yourself may not care about it, or even be aware of it, but it will affect the people who love you.


See a health professional immediately if you experience chest pain or dizziness.


Don't blame everything on yourself. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, a problem may seem impossible to resolve. Giving up on the subject is not always a bad thing, but giving up on yourself and starting self-abuse methods is counterproductive.


Sources and Citations


National Mental Health Association Factsheet on coping with stress


Mayo Clinic The symptoms of stress


Mayo Clinic Relaxation tips

Yes !!!!!!!!!!!!

"If we seek the pleasures of love, passion should be occasional, and common sense continual".

When u love some one.......

"When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults. When you love someone, you love them with their faults."

Love is passion........

"Love is passion, obsession, someone you can't live without. If you don't start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who'll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I'm not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you'll come back. Because, the truth is there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love - well, you haven't lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven't tried, you haven't lived". [William Parrish] from the movie, Meet Joe Black (1998)

Love is.......

"Love is that condition in which The happiness of another person Is essential to your own."

The power of a glance.....

The power of a glance... It is in this way that love begins, and in this way only... Nothing is more real than these great shocks which two souls give each other in exchanging this spark." Victor Hugo

Love........

"You know when you listen to music playing from another room? And you're singing along because it's a tune that you really love? When a door closes or a train passes by so you can't hear the music anymore, but you sing along anyway...then, no matter how much time passes, when you hear the music again, you're still in the exact same time with it. That's what love is like."

Truly...

"Truly loving another means letting go of all expectations. It means full acceptance, even celebration of another's personhood."

Love is .......

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own". "* "Alternate version; Love: the condition in which the welfare and happiness of another becomes essential to your own.